With less than 3 months before baby Lillith was due, Gloria and Nate began participating in our Prep for Life classes. They learned about the 3rd trimester phase in Pregnancy A to Z, prepared for delivery by watching Laugh & Learn about Childbirth, and equipped themselves to care for their new baby through Infant Bonding and Caring for Your Newborn. Their goal for Nate to find a better job and to get their own place was accomplished a few months ago and this new family is doing great!
After years of unprotected sex and a family history of infertility, Shannon felt her unplanned pregnancy was "miracle" and felt this may be her only chance to have a baby, but she also wanted to do what her husband wanted. Kyle was adamant about not having children, said that he never wanted children, that children would ruin his life, and felt abortion was their best option.
Kyle became very emotional as he talked about all of the pressure he has been put under either by his parents or by himself to be perfect. He talked about the anxiety and anger he feels by constantly being let down by people. We talked with him about God’s plan and offered to connect Kyle with a Men’s Life advocate for additional support.
When the nurse performed an ultrasound, Shannon was happy to see her baby but didn't share anything about that happiness with Kyle in the room. She now had a picture of her baby and was more determined than ever to carry, telling us, “I am not just going to have an abortion, we have time and we are going to think about this”.
When Shannon and Kyle returned the following week, they had BOTH decided to carry their baby!!!
A group of four walked in our Center, three of them young women, but I could tell right away which one was pregnant. She looked terrified, and when she tried to ask if she could get an abortion, she couldn’t bring herself to even say the word. Our nurse took her into a quiet room to perform a pregnancy test and talk with her.
This young woman shared her concern that her Catholic father would make her keep the baby. Her friends were telling her to “just” get an abortion. Our nurse was the first to ask what she wanted, provide her with truthful information, and encourage her to take her time before making the decision.
Already a mother to a 2-year-old, Sophia, and her boyfriend came to discuss abortion options, saying they couldn’t financially manage another child. Combined they earn too much for government aid, but are struggling to make it now. When our nurse performed the ultrasound, Sophia began to cry as she learned their baby was actually 22 weeks, not 9 weeks as she thought. She kept saying, “that is a baby… I am more than half way through the pregnancy”. The next day, Sophia called to say she realizes how difficult it is going to be, but with the help of her parents, she is determined to carry their baby and parent.
L & D have been together since high school. Now 41, L called Informed Choices for help because she didn’t have medical insurance. We were able to confirm the pregnancy and show this couple their baby on our ultrasound screen. We provided them information on medical care through our local health department. The exciting news they shared with us during their visit today….they got married! This couple was just adorable as they talked about telling their families their news.
When Jen came to Informed Choices, she was looking for information on the abortion pill. Jen already knew she was pregnant, as she had taken a test at home and she was distraught. When we confirmed pregnancy, Jen’s response was “I am not ready.” Due to early gestational age, an ultrasound was not able to be done that day. Jen was offered an ultrasound appointment in 1-2 weeks but declined. Two weeks later, Jen contacted us for an ultrasound appointment, but said her intentions were still to abort. Jen had decided an abortion was her only option. The ultrasound was performed and showed a 10 week baby. After the ultrasound, Jen was asked if the ultrasound was helpful. Jen sat quietly as tears welled up in her eyes. After a few moments, she responded that she had now changed her mind and was going to keep her baby.
Twenty -year old Jess came to IC for a pregnancy test and information. She currently lives with her boyfriend’s family and his mother came with her to the appointment. His parents are encouraging her to carry and parent and have offered support in any way that they can. Her boyfriend, however, is pushing for an abortion. Jess is conflicted as they have only been in a relationship for 6 months and now she is pregnant. When Jess returned for an ultrasound, her boyfriend joined her. After the ultrasound was done, Jess told the nurse “I’m not getting an abortion; I don’t care what anyone has to say”.
Lia came with her sister who was an Informed Choices client 6 years ago. She was feeling conflicted by the positive home pregnancy test because although she desperately wanted children, her situation was complicated by the fact that she was separated from her husband and dating another man.
Lia had taken the morning after pill and was looking for information on how to obtain an abortion. She was not yet far enough along to perform an ultrasound, so our staff explained the importance of an ultrasound, but Lia declined making that second appointment.
A week later, Lia contacted IC to see if she would now be able to have an ultrasound. She came in the following day with the father of her baby, Ron. As we talked with Lia, she said she had not changed her mind, but never used the word abortion. She became emotional and cried when she explained that she really wants a baby, but with her husband. An ultrasound was done, and both Lia and Ron quietly watched the monitor and saw their baby’s heart beating. When offered ultrasound pictures, Lia declined. While Lia talked with her client advocate, Ron met with a Men’s Life advocate. Both Lia and Ron were able to express their feelings about the pregnancy and were encouraged to take time to process their decision. A week later, Lia was sent a follow up text to see how things were going. She responded by asking for a copy of the ultrasound images and then said, “I am having a baby.”