K first became addicted to pain medications following a car accident that left her with a broken back. Eight years later, 31 year-old K is now addicted to heroin. She did not think she could get pregnant, but she always said if she did, she would stop using.
This pregnancy turned her life around. She moved away from the boyfriend and back in with her mother. She is in a recovery program four days a week and regularly attends our Prep 4 Life classes. She is enjoying learning about her developing baby and earning points towards the baby items she needs. As her pregnancy has progressed, we have seen her change. She is less anxious and more confident in herself. She is looking forward to being a mother. Her relationship with her family has been restored.
Join us in giving thanks for two changed lives - K's and her little one. We look forward to meeting this precious baby in January!
When we answered her call, she asked, “Can I schedule an abortion?”
We asked if she knew how far along she was. This is an important thing a client needs to know as she evaluates her options. We asked if she understood the procedure. Since 1 in 4 pregnancies end in miscarriage, we offered to give her a free ultrasound to determine if the pregnancy was viable before she made the decision. Seeing a baby on ultrasound can clarify her decision in a heartbeat.
She made an appointment and our staff came back in the evening to meet with her. While she was too early in the pregnancy for her to see much on the ultrasound, what she really needed was someone to talk to – someone who understood that no matter what decision she made, it wasn’t going to be easy.
When she left that evening, she still seemed to be considering abortion. But the seeds were planted, and ten days later, we are rejoicing that she is still carrying her baby. Please continue to pray that this young woman will continue to choose life for her baby and herself. We at Informed Choices will be here to walk along side her through her pregnancy journey, providing compassion, help and hope.
24 year old “J” comes in to one of our offices from time to time for diapers and clothes for her 18 month-old daughter. "J" is due to deliver her second baby this July. She is in a committed relationship with her boyfriend and is helping raise his two daughters.
We've been able to build a relationship with "J", and we have talked with her about struggles. She's shared with us her feelings of being trapped and unloved. We have talked with her about her faith in Jesus and have worked with her to address some of the parenting challenges she's facing. We have encouraged her to bring her boyfriend to meet with our Men’s Life volunteer. In addition, we've been able to connect her with legal assistance and introduced the couple to someone who can help the pair with budgeting.She might be in search of diapers and clothes, but we can see that God is at work, building toward a new life. Please add your prayers to ours for "J", her boyfriend, her daughter and new baby.
The father of the baby said he wasn’t ready to be a father again.. He was pressuring K to have an abortion – something with which she was not completely comfortable. Yet she had many concerns about parenting another baby. This child would be her fourth. She watched a DVD that explained the abortion procedure, but left our Center still seriously considering abortion.
Two weeks later, K returned to our Center and was again talking about having an abortion. We offered her a free ultrasound to confirm that the pregnancy was viable before making a decision. As K looked at her baby on the ultrasound screen, we showed her the heartbeat. K said “You know I can’t have an abortion now. That's a baby!"
She made her decision to keep her baby, and she signed up to come back for our Prep for Life program.
SUCCESS isn’t often the word that we would think of when working with unplanned pregnancies, however, success looks different to each of us.
Melissa came to Informed Choices pregnant, scared, and unsure of what to do next. We were able to offer her support and were happy to celebrate the birth of her son Jayden. Today, she is working two jobs and looking into continuing her education so she can provide a better future for herself and Jayden. Hard as life is, Melissa can’t imagine her life without her son. That is success!
When Lori sent a text to Informed Choices, her boyfriend was begging her to get an abortion. His friends told her to make her choose; baby or boyfriend. She made that difficult decision and chose life for her baby. He was born in February. Now, Lori has been accepted to a university this fall and is working out the details of this next phase of life. That is success!
This Mother’s Day, please pray for the young mothers who have made difficult choices and are working hard towards success in their lives.
by Healthy Choices Educator Alaina Bowman, SRAS
As I was speaking to a class of 6th graders about accomplishments they can achieve when they are grown, I asked what could get them off track from their dreams. One of the children commented that one thing would be teen pregnancy. Before I could respond, a student made a comment, "Can't you just take a pill and kill it?"
Trying to think quickly on my feet, I asked them a few questions to help them think through the question: "If that baby is alive, is "killing" it the right thing?" I made it clear a woman could still reach her dreams if she gets pregnant and has her baby. I let them know there are options like adoption if a teen doesn't feel mature enough to raise her child. And I told them that ignoring the pregnancy or trying to hide it will never help a woman move forward.
After that class, I was reminded why it's so important for us as Christians to get the truth out to the next generation. Our culture has desensitized so many of our youth to the point where a child can openly say "killing it" and that statement doesn't even phase them.
Please pray for our team as we look ahead to next school year, where we will continue to bring a message of LIFE to young people.
A twenty-one year old client came in to our office with her boyfriend of two years. The pair were living together. After a test confirmed her pregnancy, the client informed our staffer she had made the decision to place her baby for adoption. The client emphasized how much she wanted to have children, but the timing was all wrong in her life.
The couple told our staffer how much they love one another, and that they dreamed of a future together. Her boyfriend was supportive of whatever she chose in the situation. The conversation shifted to the different types of adoption arrangements available today, and some of the issues that may come up for her during her pregnancy. The client said, “It would be all worth it when seeing the faces of a family who couldn’t have a child receive this gift”.
Our staffer was brought to tears by this young woman's courage as well as her understanding that adoption was the best possible option for her baby. As the meeting continued, the client expressed great trepidation about telling her parents about the pregnancy. She said she'd grown up in a “very religious” home, and her parents were already very unhappy with her current living situation.Our staffer gave the young woman our brochures to take with her so she could show her folks she'd begun taking steps to work through this situation. The meeting concluded in prayer, and the couple scheduled a time to come back to our offices the following week for our Prep4Life course. We received a text message a few days later letting us know the couple had told her parents and that they'd fill us in at our next meeting.
It turns out that her parents offered the couple their support, and encouraged them to get married and parent the baby since they loved each other. When they showed up at our offices the following Saturday, they were engaged to be married and are now planning to parent their new baby together!
We will work with these two young people to help them provide the best future possible for their married life together and the life of their new baby. Join us in praying for them as they prepare to welcome a new life into their family.
Two College of Lake County students called our Grayslake Center seeking information about our work for a class project. Because it was an online class, the two women had not met prior to coming to our Center. The first student was a young woman of about twenty. The other student was in her forties and brought along her 6th grade daughter.
During the interview, our Center Director explained the spectrum of our services and how an unplanned pregnancy allows us a unique opportunity to provide help, hope, and share the love of Christ. As the conversation turned to the spiritual aspect, the young woman realized her need for the saving grace of Jesus. We were excited to be part of this discussion and witness the joy as her fellow college friend led her in prayer to accept Christ as her Savior and Lord. The daughter of the older student then blessed us all by singing a beautiful acapella version of Amazing Grace.
We never know what a day might bring at our pregnancy centers, but we do know it is a privilege to be here to watch God at work among us!